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A dozen posts, then poof, no more activity. I feel badly about that.
A dozen posts, then poof, no more activity. I feel badly about that. We are indeed still alive.
I have been a lurker a bad lurker at that, I left comments for the past many months. In January of this year, we moved to a different state, James still has the same job but transferred locations. I no longer had the time to devote to our home, or my friends, or my cooking, or my art, or worst of all, James.
I tried to become active in the DD community. On good weeks we had positive date nights, and wonderful weekends together, on bad weeks, our Fridays we had fights that would sour the whole weekend. Gradually DD took a hike. I may or may not have told him to shove it.
Our Fridays punctuated with fights grew more numerous, and more severe. James started counting them.
I began to feel hopeless and alone. We both realize that we need to make some life changes so we can get back to what is really important us. However, these changes will take time.
A well-spanked wife
My job currently is necessary to pay for some spending goals we have a wedding! It has made us so incredibly close, and added so much depth to our relationship in so many layers. The good news is that since we are a much stronger relationship then many others if I do say so myself we have survived more then many other relationships would have. In the end we have always come back to each others arms, sometimes broken, even shattered. But still here. That final fight. Maybe it was the most intense, maybe it was relatively mellow. Something has to give, something has to change.
James said it was fight It started as a missed text message.
A technical glitch. It unraveled from there. It was a fight that had the power to ruin the weekend and more.
But we were strong enough to stop it, and come back together. Courage is as often the outcome of despair as of hope; in the one case we have nothing to lose, in the other everything to gain. Seize every opportunity along the way, for how sad it would be if the road you chose became the road not taken. I feel I must apologize. My dearest amazing man has purchased me a toy. An awesome wilderness systems kayak! We get out in the wilderness, sometimes with friends, sometimes alone.
He teaches me, I trust him, I learn from him. My manicured toes relaxing in my awesome new kayak! Summer is very short lived. So if you in blog-land would be so kind to forgive us a temporary hiatus until the weather is cold and miserable again. Life is still nutty.
I remembered a particular Looney Tunes cartoon today, It took a little bit of research to find it online. It ended with her smacking him with a rolling pin. Secondly, the assumption is incorrect that I have unending time on my hands to do such things as:. Whats even more extraordinary is that when I refuse due to a schedule conflict, or simply lack of desire to do the chore being requested, I get met with irritation!
James loves to say I am his gift. Awww, I know, he is amazingly sweet!
My weeks are filled with our chores; laundry, cleaning, shopping, meal planning, banking, and the like. We intend to enjoy it! However, life is definitely becoming far less hectic, and becoming joyful again. Who knew graduating high school was such a shindig? One of the not so? Though the surprising part is that, I sort of miss the control.
It means DD is working, right? Why do I feel so weird about it? I got a stinking speeding ticket this past week. I honestly expected to be punished for it. I did come home extremely apologetic, and I knew I had screwed up. I think he thought I was punishing myself enough.
A well-spanked wife
He brings me along, because I do not work I stay home and he prefers I do not stay home alone, so I go with on business travel most of the time. I enjoyed the views, and some amazing maple ice cream, and a wonderful seafood supper!
He is spoiling me again. Our routine here at our new home has been largely relaxed thus far. Patricia has been excellent at helping get things done and settled. I have long pondered in my life the difference between structure and scheduling. I like structure, I tend to frown on scheduling. Scheduling to me means being a slave to the clock.
I hate having 9 min for this or 22 min for that. I realize that in our practical world, some things need to be scheduled, but this is where I sway toward structure. I realize that structure is important in order to be able to spend time doing what is important in your life.
By having Patricia handle many of the things around the home, it frees up time for other things. I have not really asked our readers here for feedback much, I suppose this i a bit of an experiment. We are beginning to see the many benefits it brings our relationship.
It is an important part of maintaining discipline and giving Patricia that feeling of protection and control she desires. Punishment is easy for me to understand. You break a rule, you acknowledge the offense and you administer corrective discipline as soon as practical. Patricia has a need to understand what offense she is being punished for, as the punishment is being administered. It allows her to process and correct her behavior in a better mental way. In the case of Patricia and I, using the Punishment Ritual will not be affective.
I suppose a followup question would be, how often and when does your relationship require maintenance? I am glad to report that Patricia and I will finally wrap up our moving adventure from our old house. We have a couple of more odds and ends, some things to move to storage and a Dd relationship stories to run around.
Patricia and I had date night last night!